Steps to forgiveness (2)

Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” Lk 6:37 NIV

Here are three more steps to forgiveness:

(1) Accept people as they are and don’t try to change them. You say, “I’ll only forgive them if they change.” That just keeps you tied to them, obsessing over what they did and demanding they act in ways that you approve of. Nothing makes people less willing to change than when you try to control them and demand that they meet your requirements. Changing people isn’t your job—it’s God’s job! Your job is to choose to forgive and leave the outcome in God’s hands. The formula for healing is simple: forgive, let go, and let God.

(2) See your offender as God’s tool for your growth. It’s easier to forgive someone when you stop seeing them as Satan’s agent sent to destroy you, and begin seeing them as God’s instrument to develop you. The life of Joseph speaks to this principle. The path that led him from the pit to the palace was paved by injustice, disappointment, and betrayal. But God used each painful circumstance to get him to his destiny. And God can do that for you.

(3) Try reconciling with your offender. Reconciliation is God’s nature. “When we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son” (Ro 5:10). And what God did for you, He wants you to do for whoever you are at odds with. Jesus made reconciliation a top priority by saying, “Leave your gift there before the altar…First be reconciled…then come and offer your gift” (Mt 5:24 NKJV). Yes, it will take selflessness and humility on your part, but the return is worth the investment!

Not hopefully but “surely”

“Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life.” Ps 23:6 NKJV

The psalmist doesn’t lead off with words like “maybe,” or “perhaps,” or “possibly,” or “hopefully.” No, he says, “Surely,” which is a term of certainty. “Surely” means absolutely; without a doubt! There are a lot of things in life you can’t be sure of. You go for a physical checkup and discover you have a malignant growth. You work in the same company for years believing your job is secure, but they downsize and all you’re left with is a pink slip. You pray for your children, live an exemplary life before them, and teach them what’s right, then you find yourself down at the police station trying to get them out of lockup because they were arrested for drunk driving or doing drugs.

As a redeemed child of God, here are two things you can be sure of: God’s “goodness and mercy.” What’s your concept of God? That’s an all-important question, so think about it before you answer. Your concept of God will determine your confidence in Him.

King David was far from perfect. Indeed, some of his antics would have made the front pages of the tabloids. But he never doubted God’s goodness and mercy toward him: “This I know, that God is for me” (Ps 56:9 NAS). Jesus said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Heb 13:5 NKJV). His goodness guarantees every need you have can be met, and His mercy guarantees that every sin you commit can be forgiven.

Just as sheepdogs drive strays back into the fold, so God’s goodness and mercy will drive you back into His loving arms every time.

8 lessons to Learn by age 40

Embrace the Journey

Most of your life will be spent in the journey, not the destination. Life is precious and each day isn’t guaranteed. If you put all your happiness in the destination, you’ll be very disappointed when you get there. This goes for physique changes, financial health, and relationships; once you reach the goal you have set ,it surprisingly isn’t as sweet as you imagined it. Find solace and peace with the journey to getting there; this is where the real magic happens.


Acknowledge the stage you’re in and be grateful for the experience. The hard times won’t last and instead of feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and negative, are knowing that on the other side you’ll be wiser and more resilient. Wisdom is normally hidden in battle keep pushing.

Take the Leap

Spending too much time thinking about “what ifs” only delay the action. None of us can predict what the future holds and no matter the outcome, just have confidence in yourself that you can handle it. Often the hardest part is letting go of expectations of what things “should” be or succumbing the trap of perfectionism, when what we really need to do is let down our walls, invite possibility of failure in and ACT.


Spending too much time thinking about “what ifs” only delay the action. None of us can predict what the future holds and no matter the outcome, just have confidence in yourself that you can handle it. Often the hardest part is letting go of expectations of what things “should” be or succumbing the trap of perfectionism, when what we really need to do is let down our walls, invite possibility of failure in and ACT.

Be Intentional and Live Powerfully



With your time, your money, your actions. With your training program, your nutrition plan, which people you choose to be in your life. Seek to find the “Why” behind everything. Be present, refine your skills, choose to respond vs. react, and expand your thoughts and comfort zones. Increase focus on creating the experience rather than letting things happen to you.

Discipline Equals Freedom



Never be afraid of failure. The only person you can control is you. So focus on making yourself who you want to be: Faster. Stronger. Smarter. More humble. Less ego. Act in according to your values and your goals; Discipline means taking the hard road—the uphill road. To do what is right, for you and for others so you can achieve the greatness you have envisioned for yourself. It will put you on the path to strength, health, intelligence and happiness. And most important, discipline will put you on the path to freedom.


You Are Your Thoughts



Ghandi said:

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”



Excuses only sound good to the person making them. The only way to truly become the person you want to be is by acting in the way that she acts; starting right now.



Your thoughts control your body and your body reciprocally controls your thoughts. If you’re feeling sad, try putting a smile on your face, even if it is the last thing that you want to do. Fake a smile, and feel how your body starts to feel lighter. Sometimes a change in our physical state is all that it takes to create a change in our mental state. Smile more, laugh more, and don’t take life so seriously.


Failure Only Comes If You Quit



Otherwise it just gives you lessons and perspective for new opportunities. Life is too short to not take those chances, to not take that leap. Every experience is an opportunity to learn from and be better the next time around. We only truly fail when we decide to give up instead of finding another way. Time cures all and you’ll live with much less regret by trying and failing, rather than not trying at all. Don’t take no for an answer, especially when it comes to your goals and dreams.

People on a high slope skiing

Trust Your Intuition



When something feels off, it is. Be in or be out. Let your Yes be yes or your no be no. Be 100% in the relationship, in the job, in your travels, in your decisions. We all have that little voice inside us telling us what we should do; don’t be afraid to listen to it.

Never Compromise on Yourself



Your integrity is the thread of your existence. Live according to YOUR values, no one else’s and do what you know in your heart is right. Don’t let the judgement of others stop you from speaking out or doing what you need to do. In the end, your word, your follow through, and your perseverance when things are tough are what will matter most.

Just a quick reminder

Don’t stay where you are tolerated, go where you are celebrated!

Too often, we put ourselves in a position, where we spend time with people who tolerate who we are, and this leads to us having to justify our very essence, which is actually exhausting.

I can tell you from personal experience, I have quirky tendencies. I’m wired differently, I think differently, and I definitely act in a way that doesn’t work for everyone.

But here’s the thing, I have my own flavour, and I’ve made peace with the fact that it’s not to everyone’s liking. My mentality is that I would rather go where I’m celebrated, and that thinking has worked really well for me. I hope this hits home for you too.

The balance is that you should be working on yourself constantly, and always trying to become a better version of yourself. But through that process, you still won’t get everyone to like you, and that’s ok. When this clicks for you, a whole new life will be waiting for you.

One last thing… Often times, we grow up with people who used to celebrate us, and then we outgrow each other. This is also ok. This is just how life works.

Sometimes people are only meant to be around for a season. Other times, people will grow with you, and that will be a beautiful thing too!

Never forget to trust in GOD AND GIVE THANKS SHALOM❤️

Loving the unlovable

The healing process starts and ends with love but how you might ask, read along as we examine the healing process. Greater love was revealed on the cross when the Son of Man sacrificed himself for heathens like me and you. Whilst we were regarded as outcasts in the society, a people undeserving of any recognition he chose to love us anyhow.

We were once regarded as unclean (filthy in the eyes of the chosen tribe), so much that Jews were supposed to cleanse themselves for three days after having any contact with us. The same was the procedure when they touched a pig. What a beautiful presentation of love displayed with Jesus Christ by loving the unlovable people unworthy of recognition.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
John 3:16 NIV

He disregarded the moral standards of those days and thus made a new covenant that gave heathens like us access to the throne of Grace. Absurdity, it seemed to the Pharisees that the ceremonially unclean people were now invited into the kingdom of God under the new covenant.

We were dead in our sins , following after dead rituals and useless gods created by our human hands and imaginations but he inducted us into a new realm of possibilities ,it was the transition from serving dead masters to worshipping a living God . Hallelujah.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:8 NIV

From this example, we notice what true love means, for it is the assurance of affection to an undeserving candidate. Love doesn’t give conditions, it is the condition. Thus his love meant promoting unworthy candidates from being outcasts to dining with Him.

The same love has been translated as mercy or grace because no one understood it. The special love wherein the benefactors do not have to do anything to be awarded association with Jesus Christ, but simply honor the new covenant and leave their past life of sin. The good news is that we are really important in the Kingdom of God, we have superior value in his sight.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
1 Corinthians 13:4‭-‬8 NIV

Our value is witnessed in that I AM THAT I AM sees his son Jesus Christ in us. Whenever we approach his throne instead of our sins speaking against our lives, the blood of Jesus speaks in our favor. True love forgives completely and doesn’t keep track of wrongdoings of the past. From the blood covenant, we were awarded a clean new start with God, long before we were born!! Amen

Under the same covenant Jesus Christ instructed us to love our neighbours!!.The same love he displayed to us he expects us to share with the whole world. True love is different from manipulation .Manipulation is rooted from selfishness ,it demands that you do certain things to be accepted, tolerated, or rewarded it normally functions with condemnation. It’s simple make someone feel useless, worthless, guilty, and want of certain attributes so they can do something for you as atonement.

To understand the love we need to look at what was displayed on the cross. The world is suffering today because we don’t understand the real essence of Love. We are in an era where divorces are rife, people marry for absolutely selfish reasons altogether it’s a shame. If you marry to gain something or marry for your ego sooner or later you are going to be frustrated with that marriage.

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
1 John 4:8 NIV

Love is a characteristic of a pure Christian it is undiluted by worldly philosophies. It is the same love that makes it relatively easy to intercede and pray for people who intentionally hurt us. People are hurting solely because they haven’t encountered pure love that comes from God. Human nature confesses love for selfish reasons, but the Christian mind loves for completely different reasons, by loving our enemies we are being obedient to this new covenant.

But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.
Luke 6:35 NIV .

Listen they will always be enemies or people opposing you, Jesus Christ faced intense opposition from people who represented the law, his biggest opposition came from his people. The very people who confessed to God with their mouths and were representatives of both God and the Mosaic covenant could not understand him for their ego had diluted the real essence of God’s love.

He truelly understood their problem ,he tried to enlighten them on the real meaning of the Mosaic covenant and the prophecies they confessed to know but obviously, their hearts were hardened. They perceived Jesus Christ as an enemy but he loved them anyway. We notice that he even interceded for them on the cross.


Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.
Luke 23:34 KJV

Love is the main thing , the world needs love and it is our duty to share it with everyone . Love is the antidote the world really need right now besides if you think of it tribalism, xenophobia, wars, drug abuse, sexual immorality, greediness, envy, jealousy, and hatred problems are simply evidence of a world full of self-hate.

Men has lost his identity and love for himself it’s a pity .In this day and age where man is experimenting a lot with their sexuality, we can only be certain that the end is near. We are witnessing self-hatred at it’s elevated level, suicides , manslaughter is rampant in our society

Are you sharing the love of God with your neighbours? Are you taking time to share the love of God with your workmates .? Are you taking time to share this love with your family? Child of God when last did you share the love of God with your children?

The moment we leave our posts, the enemy takes over and spreads self-hatred and condemnation, we need to be vigilant. This is not the season to fold our hands and simply be spectators, we need to be involved in spreading the love of God to the world.

And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands. As you have heard from the beginning, his command is that you walk in love.
2 John 1:6 NIV

Here is the thing we need to renew our mindset, for the worldly definition of love, happiness, and freedom is a sure way to a dead end. Our enemy satan is on the rampage distorting the truth. The real meaning of love has been distorted everywhere be it on television or social media. We see confusion and no one understands love anymore… for true love can only be found in Jesus Christ.

Have you given your life to Jesus Christ yet ? Do you understand this love of Jesus Christ? If you need help feel free to contact us here.We will be glad to guide you in the path of salvation for Jesus Christ is the only way , the truth and the life .Without him we are empty and void of understanding!!

If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:3 NIV

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.
1 John 4:7 NIV

Love is not charity, even though charity can be a display of affection and pity to someone. Some have confused true love for charity, we need to have the love of God in our lives so that it can flow from us effortlessly. The worldly people give gifts as well to gain momentum and favor but we give out of love with no expectation for promotion or advantage over others.

If only we could understand this love of God, we won’t need validation from anyone. The love of God is enough motivation to succeed in life. God blesses the pure at heart and in whatever work they engage in, He ensures they prosper!! Amen

You are a valuable asset in God’s kingdom, he loves you so much that his kingdom dwells inside of you. The moment we decided to follow Jesus Christ he inhabited our bodies thus we became a new creation very capable of loving humanity the same way he loved humanity.

Whilst he was a Jew he became a sacrifice for Jews and non-Jews alike thus in our system there is no room for tribalism at all. Tribalism is simply a notion sponsored by greedy and power-hungry leaders to create divisions amongst people and in the process create a superiority complex in one group of individuals thereby making human weapons to push their agendas.. . It is these ideas that are still being capitalized by politicians to gain momentum.

This is the season for love to take over, we have been enslaved by hatred and false philosophies for a long time and this yoke of hatred has to be taken off our shoulders. It’s absurd to despise someone just because they were born in a different country, or simply because they speak a different language every one of us has a right to live on earth!!. This was an old tactic that was practiced by warlords of the olden days of creating hatred for other nations in their subordinates to generate toy soldiers for the poor people. Mainly poor people fought these battles and the rich gained from these battles so it’s just vanity of vanities.


8. Again, a new commandment I write unto you, which thing is true in him and in you: because the darkness is past, and the true light now shineth.
9. He that saith he is in the light, and hateth his brother, is in darkness even until now.
10. He that loveth his brother abideth in the light, and there is none occasion of stumbling in him.
11. But he that hateth his brother is in darkness, and walketh in darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because that darkness hath blinded his eyes.
12. I write unto you, little children, because your sins are forgiven you for his name’s sake.
1 John 2:8-12 KJV

The old man and his mental programming need to be eradicated so the new covenant man can come to life. Old wine and new wine really can’t mix. There is only one practical way to redemption which is being born again. Being born again means coming to Christ as babies learning things afresh in his love, some have led people astray by trying to train people in the love of God whilst they still had the old mentality of hatred engraved in their brains and this is an error which must be corrected. Forget the former self so you can fully embrace the new you.

There is no shortcut in this warfare ,Jesus Christ is the only way so we need to be born again and start afresh just as the little babies .Lets grow in his love to fully understand ourselves and the world around us. .The same Jesus Christ who became an atonement for Americans is still the same Jesus Christ who is an atonement for Africans ,so if it is same Jesus Christ ,then he can’t consider others as superior and others nations as inferior that will only make the gospel a sham and a weapon for slave masters.

If all the nations are represented in Jesus Christ thus they mustn’t be any reason for squabbles or differences amongst nations unless the enemy has already penetrated the body of Christ. One body can’t fight against itself unless there is an exterior force involved. We need to be vigilant true ambassadors of Jesus Christ.

Now that we know the truth, there is no excuse for those still exercising the old man culture. By their fruits, you shall know them. For we know that God purely represents love, so anyone representing God should be full of love. So it is possible to have a transition from hatred to love. Yes since we all agree that we were mentally conditioned to hate, let’s agree today that we can love the exact people we were educated to hate.

The Bible clearly states that we must hate sin and not the sinner. It’s a matter of despising the way people handle their day-to-day lives and not hating them. This should be an opportunity to reach people who are still attached to the negative faith so we can train them in the truth we have come to understand.

If Jesus Christ considered complexion and culture honestly he wasn’t going to be crucified on the cross. A gospel meant to encourage hatred can only be practical to one group and be a complete nuisance to another group. So since the gospel of love is practical to every nation, it can only be practical for us to become one unit in the warfare against lucifer.

We are the light of this world, the light doesn’t waste its energy hating or despising the dark but it influences and repels darkness. The love of God must radiate from us. We are to reach the lost thus loving the unlovable is the only practical thing to do. Every person we meet in this life wants and deserves this love.

Spread the love of God 🙏🙏

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