(1) Accept people as they are and don’t try to change them. You say, “I’ll only forgive them if they change.” That just keeps you tied to them, obsessing over what they did and demanding they act in ways that you approve of. Nothing makes people less willing to change than when you try to control them and demand that they meet your requirements. Changing people isn’t your job—it’s God’s job! Your job is to choose to forgive and leave the outcome in God’s hands. The formula for healing is simple: forgive, let go, and let God.
(2) See your offender as God’s tool for your growth. It’s easier to forgive someone when you stop seeing them as Satan’s agent sent to destroy you, and begin seeing them as God’s instrument to develop you. The life of Joseph speaks to this principle. The path that led him from the pit to the palace was paved by injustice, disappointment, and betrayal. But God used each painful circumstance to get him to his destiny. And God can do that for you.
(3) Try reconciling with your offender. Reconciliation is God’s nature. “When we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son” (Ro 5:10). And what God did for you, He wants you to do for whoever you are at odds with. Jesus made reconciliation a top priority by saying, “Leave your gift there before the altar…First be reconciled…then come and offer your gift” (Mt 5:24 NKJV). Yes, it will take selflessness and humility on your part, but the return is worth the investment!
“Forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone.” Col 3:13 NIV
The misery of living with unforgiveness in your heart always lasts longer than the pain of the offense. Always! When you hold on to resentment, you open the door to depression and physical illness. Forgiving brings healing to your wounds and restores your joy.
Here are two steps to help you forgive:
(1) Remember that you have been unconditionally forgiven. Recall God’s grace toward you, and the price paid for your forgiveness. By refusing to show mercy, you’re like the man Jesus said was forgiven an enormous debt, yet was unwilling to forgive another man’s paltry indebtedness to him (See Mt 18:23-34). The grace God has extended to you leaves you no grounds whatsoever to refuse the same grace to the one who hurt you.
(2) Release the offender from the debt they owe you. You may be totally justified in saying, “They owe me for what they did!” Your friends may agree. The law may agree, and you may be thinking that the only way your offender will “learn to do what’s right” is if they’re made to pay for the wrong they did. But as long as you’re holding on to your “rights,” you’re chained to the past. It has you in its grip, and your future is being held hostage to the past’s control over you. Your offender’s sin against you was paid for by the same sacrificial love that canceled your sin debt, so they have the same need and right to forgiveness that you have. And there is more; forgiveness is not just for their benefit, but for yours:
“Forgive, and you will be forgiven” (Lk 6:37 NIV).
The psalmist doesn’t lead off with words like “maybe,” or “perhaps,” or “possibly,” or “hopefully.” No, he says, “Surely,” which is a term of certainty. “Surely” means absolutely; without a doubt! There are a lot of things in life you can’t be sure of. You go for a physical checkup and discover you have a malignant growth. You work in the same company for years believing your job is secure, but they downsize and all you’re left with is a pink slip. You pray for your children, live an exemplary life before them, and teach them what’s right, then you find yourself down at the police station trying to get them out of lockup because they were arrested for drunk driving or doing drugs.
As a redeemed child of God, here are two things you can be sure of: God’s “goodness and mercy.” What’s your concept of God? That’s an all-important question, so think about it before you answer. Your concept of God will determine your confidence in Him.
King David was far from perfect. Indeed, some of his antics would have made the front pages of the tabloids. But he never doubted God’s goodness and mercy toward him: “This I know, that God is for me” (Ps 56:9 NAS). Jesus said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Heb 13:5 NKJV). His goodness guarantees every need you have can be met, and His mercy guarantees that every sin you commit can be forgiven.
So Samuel brought near all the tribes of Israel and the tribe of Benjamin was taken. Then he brought near the tribe of Benjamin by its families. And the family of Matri was chosen. Then Saul the son of Kish was taken. But when they sought him, he could not be found. Therefore they inquired again of the Lord, “Has the man come here yet?” And the Lord answered, “He has hidden himself among the equipment.” So they ran and took him from there. When he stood among the people, he was taller than any of the people from his shoulders and upward. Then Samuel said to all the people, “Do you see him whom the Lord has chosen? Truly there is none like him among all the people.” And all the people shouted and said, “Long live the king.” 1 Samuel 10:20-24 MEV
When Samuel went to present Israel’s first king to the people, Saul was discovered “hiding among the baggage.” The Hebrew word for baggage symbolizes the self-imposed limitations that hinder you from tackling the job God appointed you to do.
Things like these: (1) Feelings of inadequacy. Saul’s first reaction when he learned he had been chosen as king was, “Am I not…from the smallest tribe of Israel…the least of all?” (1Sa 9:21 NIV).
When you fail to figure God into the equation, you will always feel “less than.” Instead of focusing on your weaknesses and inabilities, concentrate on “the incredible greatness of God’s power” (Eph 1:19 NLT). Choose today to see beyond your inabilities, and see the influence God has on your life. We always tend to get what we focus on, so it’s foolish to concentrate on our weaknesses.
(2) Fear of what others might think. The writer of Proverbs tells us “fearing people is a dangerous trap” (Pr 29:25 NLT). And Saul fell into it headfirst! When Samuel confronted him for failing to obliterate the Amalekites, he replied, “I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded” (1Sa 15:24 NLT).
God’s Word assures us, “I will never leave thee nor forsake thee. So…we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper…I will not fear what man shall do unto me” (Heb 13:5-6). Once you take hold of that truth and act on it, you will find there is nothing to be afraid of. We live according to the word , the word dwells inside of us .The word is guaranteed in our existence since we are a breathing reflection of the word of God to the nations.
(3) Being overly pragmatic. The Bible says, “A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways” (Jas 1:8). And Saul fit the bill to a tee! When he didn’t hear from God, he took matters into his own hands and consulted a spiritualist. And after vowing not to victimize David, he repeatedly hunted him down. Adaptability is commendable, but God requires consistency and commitment.
The minute you begin looking at yourself in the manner God recognizes you, your stamina changes for the better. Stop hiding behind baggage and self-condemnation, in his eyes Jesus Christ has washed you clean. This is the season to formulate aggressive moves towards your destiny.
We have been hiding for far too long, enough is enough. In this era, we will take over, no sickness will stop us. Listen we have given excuses far too long, I pray that we embark on this journey together and conquer. Stop hiding behind your spouse or vocation, on this mission we need you. We must reach the ends of the earth with the gospel.
To everyone supporting this mission, we truly appreciate your help. In this season they will be massive testimonies. In this season God is in the business of expanding territories. Your season for promotion is here, come out and quit hiding behind excuses. The anointing that breaks yokes is working right now in your life. Your testimony is now.
Our God reveals hidden mysteries to those who love him. The light of God encompasses us all day long, whom shall we fear? We are no longer condemned but justified through the blood of Jesus Christ. Everywhere you were rejected before they will start looking for you. The Voice of God will communicate on your behalf.
Start celebrating for God has remembered you today !
Who you are and to whom you belong affects everything else you do in this life from your social status , financial status and health status . We can’t choose our parents, skin complexion and places we are born but they are certain decisions we have to make . It is these decisions that really gives us the edge in life or keep us in poverty.
Every day we are faced with a lot of decisions some minor and others big, so in every decision, we make always consider the result of our actions (where we are going and what we want to achieve in life). Every action is carried from what we truly identify with.
This is no longer a season to sugarcoat the scriptures, we can’t afford to be on living on the fence anymore. Once you are born what’s left is to die consequently meeting the architect of the universe. Is humanity prepared for the day of Judgement??
“There are no unowned men. We are, every one of us, either ranked under the banner of Prince Immanuel, to serve Him and fight His battles, or else beneath the Black Prince, Satan—enrolled to do evil and to perish in our sins! It is a very proper question, then, to ask of every man and woman, ‘To whom do you belong?’”
We are inhabiting an era where multitudes are confused about their identity. Some have preferred to be homosexuals whilst some are very uncertain they don’t even comprehend whether they are male or female anymore. Lucifer is at work he is on a mission to destroy people, funny from our culture mankind identified each other by gender and the devil just had to confuse people on that one too.
You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. They are of the world. Therefore they speak as of the world, and the world hears them. We are of God. He who knows God hears us; he who is not of God does not hear us. By this we know the spirit of truth and the spirit of error. I John 4:4-6 NKJV
The turmoil comes from the devil, it’s a pity many have plunged into this pit of an identity crisis. We are of God and as his ambassadors, we operate on different principles from worldly ideologies. Whilst public opinion says leave your marriage once you are not happy, we detest divorce because our Father in Heaven hates divorce! Most decisions prove the words you are listening to , whether you are investing time in the wisdom of God or worldly philosophies.
God loves everyone, but he expands some to positions of power whilst some suffer in deprivation and stagnation. One God serving good for those who love him and pursuing his principles yet not responding to his enemies. So this statement shows that one can be an enemy of God.It only makes sense to love God with all our hearts and minds.
Israelites were a chosen people, and for God to fulfil his promise to Abraham, the inhabitants of Canaan had to die. The Canaanites worshipped pagan gods or idols so on God’s agenda they were a hindrance to the Kingdom’s expansion. We see Moses instructing Israelites never to mix with them and follow after their gods.
and when the Lord your God delivers them over to you, you shall conquer them and utterly destroy them. You shall make no covenant with them nor show mercy to them. Nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods; so the anger of the Lord will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly. But thus you shall deal with them: you shall destroy their altars, and break down their sacred pillars, and cut down their wooden images, and burn their carved images with fire. “For you are a holy people to the Lord your God; the Lord your God has chosen you to be a people for Himself, a special treasure above all the peoples on the face of the earth. Deuteronomy 7:2-6 NKJV
There is no room for compromising with the enemy, every altar erected for the pagan gods should be destroyed. Everyone in captivity by the enemy should be set free. Hell should be emptied we can’t negotiate biblical principles with the heathens. Poverty should be eradicated in our midst if we are to prosper as a church, thus anything linking us to a dependency mindset on other cultures for ideas and financial accumulation should be stopped.
It’s high time the church as a unit gets involved in changing our communities. We are the salt of the earth, the light of Jesus Christ in us can’t be hidden anymore in the name of religion. The Gospel of Jesus Christ is not just some religion it is a way of life.
“Therefore know that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and mercy for a thousand generations with those who love Him and keep His commandments; and He repays those who hate Him to their face, to destroy them. He will not be slack with him who hates Him; He will repay him to his face. Therefore you shall keep the commandment, the statutes, and the judgments which I command you today, to observe them. Deuteronomy 7:9-11 NKJV
If you love God, you honour his principles. Respecting a kingdom law will inevitably allow your extended life and freedom. Every Kingdom has a constitution hence to govern with dominion without condemnation we have to adopt Heavenly kingdom principles. The laws of every nation can show what the government of that nation is promoting. The laws God gave to Moses promoted love.Perfect love is the goal.
It is of utmost importance to check out your thoughts and habits with this checklist you will determine who is the brain of your life. Most patterns we embrace are rooted in the beliefs of our parents and communities. Thus to break the cycle of a common sin and a curse we need to change our mindset and adopt the word of God as a way of life.
Jesus is the way the truth and the life thus true wisdom can only be found in him. In him is the fullness of being. Perfect love casts away fear, to have perfect love we need Jesus Christ. With that wisdom, it is evident that fear only results from imperfect love. Identifying with Christ is the favorable decision for mankind today.
I want to encourage you the reader today, to give your life fully to Jesus Christ.In this transaction you will live your life with joy ,peace and harmony in the land of the living.
Please be kind and share this message with your friends and family members. Be a participant evangelist. I love you I feel honoured by your participation.